in the "spiritual community" there is a lot of emphasis on focusing on the inner self and not paying attention to the external world. "don't externalize your success and value through others."
if we're all connected and mirrors of each other, doesn't it make sense to listen to and interact with as many other people as we can so we may have more of who we are unlocked and reflected back to us? the internal and external is all the same. if we are only focusing on the inner world, how are we ever going to witness and see other aspects of ourselves that other people offer to us?
we remember more about ourselves and reveal more of ourselves through experiencing the external world with our senses. we can observe ourself through our own lens, which is limited. listening to how others view you is allowing yourself to reflect on more of the whole of who you are and provided you with more perspectives of what has the potential of being significant in the world.
we're participating in this world together and we are all experiencing different aspects so we may come together to fill in more pieces of the infinite possibilities that exist. when you can extend unconditional love to someone else and realize in that same moment that you possess that same vibration of love for yourself, you have unlocked a secret. why must we focus so much attention on the inner self when EVERYTHING in our external world is a reflection?
as long as we are recognizing that we can simultaneously give/show ourselves the exact same feeling that we are so effortlessly giving to another, we are expanding our knowledge of ourselves. we're constantly provided opportunities to receive new information about the inside from the outside. we can recognize success and gifts in others and if we can see that is within us, too, we become more empowered.